I don’t know

Today, 5 September is being celebrated as teacher’s day, a day dedicated to a scholar and ex President of India, Dr Sarvepally Radhakrishnan. Print and social media are filled with tributes by individuals, to their teacher’s of their schools and colleges. That set me thinking, down the memory lane, my school teachers and college lecturers..

Why am I not getting a single name to talk about ? School-sister veronica, mount carmel convent, standard 4, Devi Prasad, Sharma until 7th standard,in Rourkela,  Rosener, Chatterjee, Hari Prasad and and.. in Ranchi.

In the college, Prof Behra, Dr Nagbhushan, Dr Khanijo, Dr Kapoor, Dr  Dash, Dr Mohanty, Dr Prasad  and few others, whose classes I have attended.

One thing I can guarantee, not a single one of them will remember me or know me. Reason, I was always hiding in front of them. Being shy of things I did not know, created a complex and survived with minimum interactions with teachers. I have dealt with my exams with the help from text books

  • For me, the teachers in school  and professors in the college were passing on the knowledge from the text books to me. Their hard work was stress for me, home works, examinations, deserving punishments, including caning , put out your hand or bend , one or two on the butt. They were always willing to go to the extent I wanted, it is me who kept avoiding them. My learnings began after I left the learning centres.

There are two types of teachers in academics, for one  it is a profession and the other, a passion. In our country, their salaries do not match their workload. It is the most honourable profession, teachers are the greatest contributors to the nation’s development through their wards, though the back benchers join politics and rule the country.

My learning are from my friends and others who later became my friends. One thing I taught myself is to say I do not know or keep quiet, when I do not know. I will store what you say, accept what I experience. You say there is a GOD, done, another says there is no GOD, ok, I wait for the experience.

My friend Tauro and Itty were discussing about a demo of a software by a third party, when Itty said, menon can develop this, he knows how to do it. Tauro’s response was “ya he knows it but has he done it ?” I over heard this and realized, the value of Knowledge is in what you do with it. Since then if I have not done or shared it, it is not an asset, it is as good as I don’t know.

Jain, who came to visit Bangalore office after a year from Ranchi came to my seat to say hi. I told him, “ how come you are coming after an year”, he said, “I was here six months ago”. When I asked him why did he not meet me, he looked thoughtfully at me and said “I forgot about you”. He went up a few notches in my esteem and I felt good about his honesty. In his place, I would have given a thousand bluffs. From that day I have picked up his style of honesty in such situations.

Parthasarathy, national basket ball player, my friend and colleague, I found him to be very organized, neat and methodical with a good hand writing (I was just the opposite, disorganized, clumsy with poor handwriting).I learnt all these qualities from him, never practiced them. We were in the computer division of MECON, when I would trouble him with doubts, simple and repeated  ones, when he said, “there is a help key, you can get most of your answers there.” A few lessons there, I was wasting his time and slowing his productivity, finding solution yourself is far greater learning than being spoon fed. Respect other’s time, do not waste it for them.

I was running a computer training centre in Dubai, when my friend,  Abraham came to meet me. I told him, this is just a make shift arrangement, so my interest is limited and I have not come here for this job. He said,” you should focus on what you are doing, give your full attention to what ever you are doing, don’t do it as a time pass, treat it as your profession”. I took his advise and raised it to a good level before I left, to return to India, to be back with my family. You may not be able to do what you like, like what you do.

Whatever technical knowledge I have, major contribution is  from my friend Sakthidharan, Rajendran, Electrical Engineers and Dr Gopalakrishnan,Pertoleum Enginner, my brother in law, during our discussions

My cousin brother in law, Purushotham (Aniyan for us), a man of action, make things happen while you are still planning, learnt from him but I can’t.

His brother Suresh Kumar (alias Babu), deceptive in appearance is the coolest of them all, conducted the marriage of his daughter at Guruvayur, Kerala when every body was advising to cancel the event, due to floods. Two days before the scheduled date, it was not possible to reach the venue, however things cleared up to make it happen as planned.. There is no point in worrying, deal with the situation the best way.

Indu menon (my sister) and Lakshmi Menon (also my sister) both non entrepreneurs, are now successful social entrepreneur and ecopreneur. The intention, social upliftment and environment protection over monetory profits, is the key to  success.

My number one learning is to accept what is than crib over what should have been.

Here is a forward I received
Someone asked  Acharya Chanakya

What is envy ?
non acceptance of good in others
If we accept that good, it becomes inspiration…!

What is Anger?
non acceptance of things which are beyond our control.
If we accept, it becomes tolerance…!

What is hatred?
non acceptance of person as he is.
If we accept person unconditionally, it becomes love…!

What is Poison?
He replied with a beautiful answer – Anything which is more than our necessity is Poison. It may be Power, Wealth, Hunger, Ego, Greed, Laziness, Love, Ambition, Hate or anything

What is fear…..?
non acceptance of uncertainty.
If we accept that uncertainty,
it becomes adventure…!

It’s a matter of acceptance.

Resistance creates stress… Acceptance does away with stress …

The more I learn, I realize the more I don’t know.

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Grateful for the love and respect received so far. Inspire, motivate and enable anybody to achieve their limitless limits-that is my goal for the rest of my life. Worked in MECON, Mphasis, Cofounder KelpHR, kelphr.com

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14 thoughts on “I don’t know”

  1. It is a privilege to have worked with you and mentored by you sir. Your guidance, simplicity has been a source of inspiration to so many of us. You were an awesome teacher to countless members and please accept my gratitude towards your innumerable teachings with your talks and writing which remind your speech and experience. Every moment spent with you was a treasure in my life. Thank you for being you and your words.

    1. Best wishes, Sreenath. Start posting in your blog. Thank you for all the good words. Its my pleasure to have been associated with you,the great team members and the accomplishments

  2. Wow Rajammava.. indeed.. every person we meet during this journey of life teach us something or the other. It’s just a matter of when you realise it. HAPPY TEACHERS DAY!

  3. Very well-written and soo true Rajammava!!!! There is soo much to learn from every single person in and around us, you just need to have an open mind…. love all your writings!!!!!

  4. You are an inspiration from all angles. I think whoever is associated with you, do learn to manage things with utmost simplicity, acceptance in reality, humility and many more. Thank you Sir.

    1. Thank you, Ambika. Your actions, in the past 3 years, taking a break,studying for executive MBA, managing your children, younger one around 1 year old and now back to a job, is one of the most inspiring. You should write, your previous 4 years and share it.

  5. 👍👍👍 bang on, Rajatten! In fact absence of any ‘ wants’ in life is acceptance of life as it comes I guess..!

  6. To know you do not know is the real knowledge.From here onwards journey of knowledge can be started.You are ready to acceppt you are real gem my dear friend with good heart

  7. Dear Rajendra, Your blog ‘I donot know” guides to know everything of life. every stage of your life teaches you some thing through your own thoughts, somebody’s guidance or following some one having dignity. Yes, do agree doing any thing with full faith provides us beautiful result. Loved your passing phase experience in learning from childhood till today. I can co-relate the situation of yours with mine. No doubt teacher (in whatever form – subject teacher, colleague, companion, friend, parents, siblings etc.) makes our life change. Thank you for sharing.

  8. I salute your honesty and humble nature. I understand they come with higher level of maturity.
    Steve Jobs – “Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”

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