Situations to deal with

The young couple sitting across my seat were looking at their phone screens, at times giggling, quiet, exclaiming ” shit”, showing each other their screens for almost an hour since we started our journey, finally looked up and said hello uncle, where are you travelling up to.

I replied Kochi and you .?
“We are on a honeymoon trip to munnar and wagamon (or is it Vagamon) ?How are these places, have you been there ?”

“You are on a honeymoon trip, place is not important, what makes you happy while you are there is what makes the place.”

“Ha, ha, it must have been ages, however where did you go for your honeymoon “

“My honeymoon was visiting our elders of both sides for their blessings and by the time we finished our rounds, our leaves were over and we were back to work.”

The guy was working in an IT company and the girl was in a bank.

They asked me about my life journey.

I started with a bicycle, then bought a bike and later cars, in between did my engineering, got a job, got married, had 2 daughters (they are still there, married and made me a grandfather of 4 children), travelled across states, nations, and foreign lands, built a house, tried a business, exited while on breakeven, now at 75, wakes up every morning, here is one more morning and what do I do, well I decide what to do and do. All my luxury is my family, friends and relatives and their love. All these 75 years took 75 seconds.

“Ÿou made it sound so simple, eliminated all the emotions, is it possible”

“No , however I realised quite early that life is all about reaction in a situation.There are no problems, only situations to deal with. When things do not go as per plans, anger, frustration, sorrow and whatever, creeps in.”

“How did you deal with that ?” they asked.

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” I counted my blessings, the food in my plate, a bed to sleep on, the shelter, the clothes I have, my body, love and support of my family,friends and relatives” I continued “My capability to help others”.

“I measured my strength by what I can give, not what I have”.

“Remember,we are all unique, there is no single way, you will find your way, the only common thing is the destination, do what you think is right, the outcome is not in your control”.

I stopped and told them sorry, I forgot that you are on your honeymoon trip and our meeting is not a part of your plans, this is an example of outcome is not in your hands.

I laughed and they didn’t and were decent enough to tell me, True or false, that it was wonderful. They extended their decency by taking my phone number and not sharing their’s.

I had stopped such sermons to the new gens long time ago, they are in a fast paced zone and our thoughts have no place in their life.’

Finally, my best wishes to Sri Kalyanaswamy Sir on his 90th birthday on June 2nd. I have booked my tickets to travel to Hyderabad to meet him, 2 days after his birthday celebration and spend, one to one, quality time.
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