Excuse me

Blog, write a book, do something. Share… You have been listening and listening  all your life and talked to very few.  Do you know you have changed  many lives for the better. Talk to more people and help them. They need you. You can inspire, especially the young.

Thank you, boss, for the suggestion. Its been more than a year and I have lot of excuses for doing nothing. I read a book on excuses By Dr Wayne Dyer. And here I am.

I shall talk about it tomorrow. Procrastination ? The  excuse, I have no time today…


Ok, here I am, again.

Are you where you want to be, in life ? If you are, then no need to read further.

Others, Please check which  excuses mentioned below are your friends ?

  1. It will be difficult
  2. It is going to be risky
  3. It will take a long time
  4. There will be family drama
  5. I don’t deserve it
  6. It’s not in my nature
  7. I can’t afford it
  8. No one will help me
  9. It has never happened before
  10. I’m not strong enough
  11. I’m not smart enough
  12. I’m too old (or not old enough)
  13. The rules won’t let me
  14. It’s too big
  15. I don’t have the energy
  16. It’s my personal family history
  17. I’m too busy
  18. I’m too scared

Lets see the response to the above before we go further.


20 Nov 2009

  1. It will be difficult


Difficulty in experiencing addiction, obesity, depression, shyness, low self-esteem, loneliness, or any other life aspect, is useless suffering we hang on to. If its going to be difficult anyway, why not opt for useful suffering. For all you know, it may not be as difficult as you imagne it to be. It may be easy.


I had a nasty habit, smoking. I thought I was enjoying it. I was advised to leave it. More the advise more defiant I was. Once, I wanted to smoke but had no cigarette and none were available. It was frustrating, painful and very depressing. Hold it, what the hell, a slave to a tiny six inches paper wrapped tobacco stick. To be a smoker, what all have I to deal with? Carry cigarettes, lighters, dispose off ashes, smelly fingers, stained teeth, potential cancerous lungs, cough up nicotine residue, long for it when not available, straining the nerves and find money to buy them. Enough. All these negatives outweighed the so thought enjoyment.

The useful suffering of getting rid of the habit was better than the useless suffering of smoking.

You want to do something, do it. If you are not doing it, ask yourself,  why you are not doing it? You will find the answer belongs to one or two excuses in the list above. That awareness will be sufficient.

Once you are aware of the excuse, you can tell yourself ‘Why not ?’. Try it once and see how it works.

I am closing this topic here.

Not sure, how effective this has been


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Grateful for the love and respect received so far. Inspire, motivate and enable anybody to achieve their limitless limits-that is my goal for the rest of my life. Worked in MECON, Mphasis, Cofounder KelpHR, kelphr.com

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18 thoughts on “Excuse me”

  1. Great topic to begin with…
    Procrastination is something which we all we can relate to…
    No body has seen tomorrow…
    What is in our hands is only today…
    Our work life is marked with delays…

  2. To be frank, I did not understand your post. Yet, 3 immediate responses show your popularity. I am confident that you are going to make very useful contribution to the world. Wish you happy blogging!

    1. The first para is all about the idea of blogging, someone pushing me to do something like writing. I must have had various excuses inside me for not doing it.
      The next is about a book called ‘stop the excuses! how to change lifelong thoughts’ by Dr Wayne W. Dyer.
      Today, I am mentioning some of the excuses (Quote Dr Dyer). It may not be applicable to you, since you are a doer.
      However, I hope I have more visitors. I am keen they should know you and your blog because you are the one who is really really WRITING.
      Friends-Please visit Sakthidaran’s enriching blog- http://www.sakthidaran.learningprofessor.info/blog

  3. I would like to share a quote that I heard this week. It is a variation of the serenity prayer.

    Grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the people I can, and the wisdom to know it’s me.

    1. A parent complained to Stephen Covey: “I can’t understand my son; he simply does not listen to me.”

      Covey’s answer: “I guess, to understand your son you need to listen to him.”

      “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey

  4. I think this is a good topic for discussion in all weather conditions, including recession. I have not read the book but if it somewhere demonstrates how successful people never find or utilize excuses I think it would be worth reading by all the “excuse(-able)” experts!

    Not sure whether it will fit the excuses discussion but one of the well known politician from down south was famous for using the word “Parkalam” quite frequently when he had no answers for a few burning issues. For the benefit of those now aware of Indian – Tamil language, “Parkalam” means “let’s see”.

  5. The subject you have taken for your initial blog is revealing as no one has escaped procrastination. My feeling is, successful people have to some extent corrected the effects. I would not venture that they have got over it completely.

    This is an age old problem. My grand pa use to remind us every morning to ” never put off till tomorrow what you can do today”.


  6. Menon,

    Welcome to the blog world and i have been waiting to see something like this from your end for long time, i got to see all the 18 excuses why not ? now overcoming all the excuses and making your thoughts published online can bring new grounds for us you have a lot to tell this could be the right platform and wishing you all the success in the same.

    Waiting to see more on coming days…. 🙂


  7. Your list of excuses is used by all of us each day. Another wonderful excuse I have often heard is “I do not have time!” I was wondering whether everyone else has more than 24 hrs per day or this ‘excuser’ has less than 24. I have actually studied some people who blurt out this excuse often and found that they are the laziest people in the world. I was amazed to read the biography of Srila Prabhupada, who started ISKCON. He started the movement at the age of 69. He had a heart ailment by that time. He then found time to translate Srimadbhagavatham into English (with his own comments running into pages), write the “Bhagavad Geeta as it is” once again as the original manuscript was stolen.

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